Excuses are a crutch and we all make them. They’re easy to make. Putting off your responsibilities and doing nothing is indisputably easier than doing literally anything at all. It’s easy once you start thinking like this to fall into a rut and end up not progressing in life at all.
The simple solution: stop making excuses… Easy, right?
People let fear and doubt prevent them from reaching goals or new levels of success. It’s hard to put yourself out there sometimes. You may want to put in for that promotion at work but don’t because you just feel like you won’t get it. Maybe you want to ask your crush out on a date but you fear the possibility of being rejected. You want to write that book you’ve had in your head for years but think it’ll be terrible once you start typing.
These are all excuses. Any reason you make that prevents you from achieving something new in life is an excuse, and it’s bad. You don’t have to be a “yes man,” and agree to everything. But you should seriously consider some of the decisions and choices you’re making in your life.
Rejection feels terrible, temporarily, but it can be a good thing if you use it right. The first time I failed at anything in the Army was during a school I was enrolled in. I was a cocky young soldier at this time and I just thought that my training and experience would carry me through the course. I didn’t put in any extra effort. Other soldiers around me were studying and practicing our tasks every chance they got in our free time. I didn’t do anything, I just relaxed and made excuses for not practicing anything.
I failed the course. I had to walk in front of the entire class and turn my gear in to the instructors while everyone watched. They all knew I was a failure. I got on a bus to drive me away from the compound and I remember them all watching me until I was out of their view. I felt terrible. I thought I was a stud in the Army, and here I was, having to return to my unit to tell them that I failed a course that they hand picked me to attend because they were so sure that I would do everything possible to pass.
I was a failure and I didn’t know how to take it. Instead of letting that get me down and getting into a rut of making more excuses and being more of a failure, I used it to my advantage. I had a taste of failure and I hated it. I’ll never forget how that made me feel. I can still remember now how I felt seeing everyone’s face as I passed them by in the failure bus. I never wanted to feel that way again.
I changed my entire attitude and did everything I could to make myself into the person I wanted to be. I started showing up early for work, I started studying in my off time and working out more. I stopped drinking so much. I used the failure and negative feelings I experienced to make myself better.
So stop making excuses and being afraid to go after what you want in life. The worst thing that will happen is that you’ll fail. And failing isn’t the end of the world; it can actually be an incredibly powerful experience in your life. But only if you have the right attitude about it.
The people you look up to and aspire to be didn’t get to where they are by making excuses. It feels good to have a role model and tell yourself that one day you’ll be as successful as they are. Imagining yourself in their position is a great fantasy to have. The only way you’re going to get there is by working for it. Good things in life don’t come easy, so stop taking the easy way out of everything.
I hope if this doesn’t inspire you, it at least makes you think about some of the excuses you’ve been making in your life. No matter what you say, the only thing holding you back from achieving your goals is yourself. Anything you believe other than that is just an excuse!
Let me know if you have any similar stories involving excuses or failures that you turned into a positive experience!